Friday, March 16, 2007

My big fat gay wedding essay



Actually, I have a lot more to write and hope to find a place to write it after it's all over and done with, but here's the piece I wrote about our troubles finding a rabbi here in Las Vegas to officiate in our wedding this Sunday.

Out of curiosity, which of these two poses is better?

19 comments:

Amy said...

I prefer the photo on the left because it has more personality and the composition is better. The centered, symmetrical photo on the right looks too posed, in my opinion. The one the left looks more natural.

Now we need a close-up in color so we can see your eyes. You both have gorgeous eyes!

LinfromNJ said...

I prefer the one on the left. It looks more natural and uncontrived.

BSquared said...

I agree...the one on the left is a better composition

Glad you found a great Rabbi

FrankLeeMyDear said...

The left side photo fits the personalities that I hear in your podcast. Congrats on the commitment that you've made to each other.

Anonymous said...

I like the one on the right. Maybe because you're holding hands and I'm a softie. Mazeltov and have a wonderful life together.

SNR said...

Well, I have to agree with almost everyone here, that I think the picture on the left is "the" one.

I read your essay in CityLife and as a short Jewish gay man who has been with a six foot, former altar boy, black man (yes, we're the poster children for hate crimes) for the past eighteen years in a completely monogamous relationship I'm glad you're getting your wedding and congratulations.

I also have an uncle who was a rabbi but is now a flight attendant for Southwest - but that's a story for another time.

Just wanted to say I enjoyed your essay and congrats again on the nuptials. Hope you'll check out my blog and site at www.somelikeitscott.com

Gerry Dodge said...

Steve:

I happen to be in Vegas which made me think of you and I went to your website. Your essay reminded me of the stuff you wrote at NU which I always looked forward to reading. Too bad I’m a “former” Catholic priest. If I were “active,” I would be thrilled to officiate. You wouldn’t have had to worry about the Christianity thing. I was never too big on the divinity of Christ myself. My best to you and Miles.

Gerry Dodge

Anonymous said...

OK boys so now your show is 10 minutes shorter for the gay soapbox segment - will this become a regular? So now you're married...mmmm. Let's now see you procreate if you’re going to corrupt the institution of marriage.

Like most homosexuals, you guys just don’t get it. The rest of the world does not care what deviance you practice in your bedroom. What you do is your business. When you put out a public program, using the Vegas brand as covert reason to promote gay politics, that’s deserves comment.

The cupboard was always designed so you types could keep your business private. That means keeping your deviance private.

TheStripPodcast.Com said...

How odd that someone so offended would be such a loyal listener. We must be doing something right. And unlike cowards who write stuff like this, we're not afraid to put our names and pictures behind our statements and deeds.

Happily, it's a sign of progress that the "cupboard" (uh, it's known as the closet, you dumbass) now belongs to small-minded people afraid of the consequences of taking credit/responsibility for their hate.

Anonymous said...

Gays can be baited so easily. And by the way, it may be a closet where you live, however, where I live, in England, it's the cupbord - you dumbass. Who says everyone has to live in America! How presumptious of you. It's the same presumptiousness you convey in your program, namely that everyone is interested in gay issues. Your listeners don't want your sexaul deviances jammed down their throat. Don't you get it. Dont't ask and don't tell. By the way, ask your dear Jewish mother if she'd prefer photos of grand kids or dogs to show her friends in Florida. I can tell you it won't be the dogs.

TheStripPodcast.Com said...

Dude, get a dictionary. Why are right-wing nutcases always so illiterate?

My mom will have her granddaughter from us soon enough. Thanks for your concern. And if the sole purpose of marriage is procreation, then an awful lot of straight folk out there are in big trouble, too.

And again, so sorry you're too much of a sissy to put your name with your comments.

Anonymous said...

Hey Miles, loosen up. You're such an angry man. If this gay chauvinism stuff is making you this way - give it up. Get in the cupboard (sorry closet) and then you don't have to defend your depraved lifestyle and maybe Steve will get himself a girl. He's a good looking guy. Sorry - or is that, wife? He could pick and choose any of the hot girls in Vegas. Take Steve's advice and give this blog away. It's not worth the agro and I'd cease to bait you.

Oscar W.

Dan Kane said...

Hey Oscar (like we'd believe that's really your name!) - you're the one who sounds angry. Steve (Miles doesn't write the blog) sounds completely sensible and proves his confidence by leaving your dumb comments up to show the world what sort of ignorance is out there.

Speaking as a listener who was once a little uncomfortable hearing about their gay life, all I can say is that if you haven't "gotten" that they're speaking about their lives as normally as you would speak about yours - nothing more, nothing less - then the problem is yours and not theirs. They're just smart, interesting professional people who live their lives with honor and decency, from what I can tell. Just because you're obsessed with their sex lives doesn't make it their problem.

Give it up, you ignorant fool. You sound like a hick. And if Steve is angry, which he doesn't but I would be if I were him, he's got good reason; he's got a Bible-thumping fundamentalist nutjob out there spewing hateful things on his blog.

Dan Kane said...

Hey you homophobic jerk - the Internet's a huge place. if you don't want to read this blog or listen to steve's podcast, then don't. just move along. The fact that you keep coming back and pretending to be more than one person shows that you're the angry, obsessed one. There's no need to be offensive unless you've got something to hide. Move along, you obsessed freak. What exactly do you think you're accomplishing?

Also, I assume you never have sex for any other purpose than procreation? What a hypocrite.

TheStripPodcast.Com said...

Hey Dan...

I deleted this jerk's two most recent postings, which I guess you're reacting to. I'm OK with people wanting to show their homophobia because it just proves to the world that these crazy people exist and that they're the ones who are consumed by anger and sexual obsession. But when he starts making obscene comments, that's the line I draw. In his dirty world that sort of commentary may be appropriate, but not in mine.

I will address one thing the kook said, which is that homosexuality is not "natural." Actually, it's completely natural. It has been found to exist in every species and in every human civilization, a mere variation of human interest as ordinary as the fact that some people are intrigued by science, others by literature. Nobody who likes candy suggests that those who like spicy food are "unnatural."

Not everything humans do is aimed at the propagation of the species. And in order for this crazy to have a point, he'd have to claim he has only ever had sex in his entire life for the purpose of having a child. And we know that's not true, so he's dismissed from serious debate.

In fact, homosexuality is more natural and logical than the notion that there is a superhuman being that used magic to create the planet in six days 6000 years ago. Or that, following life, some people live on clouds in the sky and sprout wings while others burn in a subterranean alcove dictated by a red monster.

Anonymous said...

What next? some guy marrying a goat? Ooops. Spoke to early

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/4748292.stm

Anonymous said...

Ah come on.... Leave it alone. What's a matter with these two pirtes that's got you so wound up. Goat's hey.... mmmm. Does she have a sister?

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TheStripPodcast.Com said...

I'm not sure which is more pathetic, the original comment or the fact that you're having a conversation with yourself on an ancient blog post that nobody is reading. So silly.